Goodbye Mom Guilt: Why Self-Care Is Not Selfish
Do you know the feeling of constantly being torn between the needs of your children, your partner, your job, and your household – until there’s barely any time left for yourself? Many moms suffer from what is known as Mom Guilt: the guilty conscience that arises when they take time for themselves. But here’s the truth: self-care is not selfish – it’s the foundation of a healthy, happy family life.
This is exactly the message embodied by the new PURELEI × LeGer by Lena Gercke Collection, carrying the motto Be Unstoppable. Lena Gercke, model, founder of the fashion label LeGer, and mother, together with Alisa Jahnke, co-founder of PURELEI and also a mom, know what it’s like to balance career, children, and personal dreams every single day. They are living proof that you can be all of it – if you have the courage to put yourself first.
What Does “Mom Guilt” Mean?
“Mom Guilt” describes the guilty feelings many mothers experience whenever they’re not fully present for their children.
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Guilt while working or when the kids are in daycare
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The belief of being a “bad mother” when taking time for hobbies or friends
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Comparing yourself to other moms (often amplified by social media)
These constant feelings of guilt are widespread – but they don’t make you a better mother or a happier person. In the long run, they can lead to stress, exhaustion, and even burnout.
Why Self-Care Is Essential – A Look at Lena Gercke & Alisa Jahnke
You can only give when your own battery is charged. Self-care doesn’t mean putting your family second. It means having enough energy to be there for everyone – including yourself.
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A relaxed, balanced mom can be more present for her children.
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Children learn through role models – when you respect yourself, they learn self-love.
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Time for yourself is like recharging your battery – without energy, there’s no true care.
Lena Gercke and Alisa Jahnke embody exactly this: they show that motherhood and self-fulfillment can go hand in hand. With Be Unstoppable, they make it clear that every woman has the right to set boundaries – without guilt.
Practical Tips to Overcome Mom Guilt
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Plan small breaks: Even 10 minutes of breathing exercises or a short walk can help.
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Challenge your thoughts: Ask yourself, “Do I really need to be perfect?” The answer is no – perfection doesn’t exist.
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Set realistic expectations: Work, household, kids – not everything has to run smoothly every day. Nobody expects perfection, only love.
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Accept support: Involve your partner, family, friends, or professional help.
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Take your needs seriously: Write down things that bring you joy – and make time for them regularly.
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Celebrate yourself: Note one moment every day that made you proud.
Psychological Insights
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Self-care is prevention: Studies show that mothers who regularly schedule time for themselves report fewer stress symptoms. (Study link)
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Let go of perfectionism: Guilt often stems from unrealistic expectations. Remember: “good enough” is more than enough.
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Find your community: Connecting with other moms reminds you that you are not alone.
Be Unstoppable – Inspired by Lena Gercke & Alisa Jahnke
“Mom Guilt” may be common, but it’s not inevitable. By embracing self-care as an essential part of motherhood, you strengthen not only yourself but also your family.
The PURELEI × LeGer by Lena Gercke Collection carries the slogan Be Unstoppable for a reason. Lena Gercke and Alisa Jahnke embody the truth that motherhood, career, and self-fulfillment are not contradictions – as long as you respect your own boundaries and don’t forget yourself along the way.
So allow yourself to take time – without guilt. Because a mom who loves herself is truly unstoppable.
Discover the PURELEI × LeGer by Lena Gercke Collection and find jewelry pieces that remind you every day that self-care is your superpower.
